Pity Party


As humans, it is a natural thing to be shown some pity,  if for nothing at all, at least once in a lifetime. Sympathy is sought from friends and family for loss of job, spouse, child, friend, family etc. But could there be side effects of enjoying too much pity? Is it likely to damage your bright future by always seeking pity? I have come to understand the “super women” of our time who abhor pity with all that is within them. They refuse to be pitied because to them, it makes all their hard work naught. I’m not against being sympathetic towards people nor being pitied by people, but I believe you shouldn’t allow that to cloud your greater sense of judgement. You should be careful not to make things worse than they look just to get a ‘lil’ sympathy and probably money from someone.


Words are very powerful tools, they chart the course of life you enjoy. Thus whatever you speak over your life is what you receive and enjoy. It’s not for no reason that motivational speakers and life coaches encourage their audience and clients to speak positive over their lives. People who don’t even believe in God use this tool of positive speaking and have gone ahead to chart great courses for their lives. And yet those who claim to believe in Christ seem to be unaware of the power of their words. Or if they’re aware of the power at all, they take it lightly. A lot of Christians know perfectly well that by His stripes we’ve been healed(note that it’s not will be healed), and that we aren’t comfortless. But to confess these truths concerning their lives and putting things right, they’d rather choose to speak loosely and give grounds to sicknesses, sorrow, depression, discouragement etc in the victorious life they have in Christ.

Check out this short audio from Donald Lawrence about your words: The I AM factor

In the name of ” walk in my shoes and you’ll know what I’m going through“, people come up with all sorts of sorry excuses and stories. Expecting to be let off the hook, the moment their stories and excuses are heard. Someone would excuse himself from work because
he’s sick and would go lengths to make his boss visualize how sick he is that he can’t come to work. I don’t necessarily have anything against that, cuz I’m also guilty of that sometimes. Fine, you may decide to be sick(decide to because being sick is a choice and not something you can’t change); but what’s the point in empowering the diabetes, cancer, pain etc to stay by elaborating how defeated you’ve become by them? Elaborating life’s situations and hard knocks just for the sake of making conversation or getting sympathy from people isn’t a very prudent thing to do. Especially for someone who expects to win at life, you can’t continuously await people’s decorative medals(their sympathy) to make it.


The truth is that, faith is valid, irrespective of feelings or so called evidence and reality; so
irrespective of what you’re feeling or seeing, the truth is what God’s word proclaims about you,
not what doctors, friends, therapists etc etc proclaim. You have the power to be healthy already on the inside of you why not utilize it? You possess the ability to succeed at life, why throw pity parties to seek pity from others just to validate your bad experience?
No matter the kind of situation you find yourself, choose to speak the truth over your life. Know the promises of God concerning that situation. Don’t give room for people to pity you. That will only land you in much more pain and trouble than you can live with. Don’t tell me you find comfort in sympathy and pity and  being constantly reminded of how long that problem has been there; I beg to differ on that, it looks to me like it’s rather death you’re receiving. Forget about the person saying “oh God will do it”, if God will do something in your life, He’ll let you in on it. He wouldn’t want you to organize a pity party before He decides to intervene. There’s nowhere that He encourages you to come to Him with pity and accusations. He asks that you come with boldness and faith, to obtain mercy and find grace. He’s always prepared to act on His word concerning your life, the question is if you’d allow Him? Or you’ll prefer to enjoy your pity party.


Avoid giving in to the urge to pity party:
1. Spend quality time with God through prayer and word study: Whatever you spend quality time on tells on you. It tells on your attitude, mindset and demeanor. God isn’t one to indulge His children in their complaints and accusations. No wonder He said there’s no condemnation for those in Christ right?(Rom 8:1) He doesn’t need you weeping and wailing to Him about how wrong things are going. He needs you to be bold enough to remind Him of His promises to you. Enjoy your time with Him and receive life to enjoy life(lol).

“but they who wait for the Lord shall renew their strength;

    they shall mount up with wings like eagles;

    they shall run and not be weary;

    they shall walk and not faint.

Isaiah 40:31 ESV

2. Consulting the word of God first about any situation life throws at you: Your first point of consultation in any given circumstance should be the word of God, which is truth. You may have friends who may refer you to the word, but why wait for them to do the referral? Why not take the initiative to consult the word for yourself? It’ll bring you benefits you’ve never thought of.

” All Scripture is breathed out by God and profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, and for training in righteousness, 17 that the man of God may be complete, equipped for every good work.”

2 Tim 3:16-17 ESV

3. Speak the word of God over the situation

” For the word of God is living and active, sharper than any two-edged sword, piercing to the division of soul and of spirit, of joints and of marrow, and discerning the thoughts and intentions of the heart.”

Heb 4:12 ESV

4. Accept the grace made available to you. Keep the faith irrespective of what you see or feel. Depend on the truth always. For indeed you shall know the truth and it shall set you free. Definitely stick to truth, never settle for tales. Keep the faith and keep working the faith out. Don’t just believe, show that you do. Act it out.

“His divine power has granted to us all things that pertain to life and godliness, through the knowledge of him who called us to his own glory and excellence,”

2 Pet 1:3 ESV

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  1. This is a personal testimony… I’ve always thought that everything I do in life doesn’t work out…that there’s some kind of failure in all my actions (even when I became a Christian, a leader!). I then resort to pitying myself and seeking same from others. But thank God for workpieces of this sort…that helped me to know everything I touched actually have a unique touch. May this particular work help someone too, out of the dance-hall of pity-party. In Jesus name. God bless you Enam.

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